admin @ Wed, 2006-09-13 08:00
I am 68 years old and dating a very nice gentleman who is 85. He recently bought an old airplane, fixed it up and is flying it. He wants me to fly with him. He has had open-heart surgery, and I'm terrified to go. I love and respect him in every way, but this flying is not my bag. Do I have to go with him, or can I just say no?
: : Encourage him, express your admiration for what he's done, and tell him that you'll be there on the ground cheering him on when he takes off.
: He's 85 and flying a plane? Good for him! He probably wants you there because he wants you to share in his excitement. But it's OK to tell him that you love him and that you're scared to fly. If he loves you, he'll just be happy to see you waving down below.
: I recently read a "Forbes" magazine article that said a man is better off not marrying a career woman. It said that marriages to career women are more likely to end in divorce, career women are more likely to cheat, and career women are less likely to have children. What are your thoughts?
: : That the writer of that story was a small-minded, insecure jerk, and I pity the woman who ends up with him. I'm not a statistician, but I know that you can cherry-pick stats to support almost anything you want. And publications still love to take down professional women in this way. Remember the famous Newsweek piece that claimed single women over 40 have a greater chance of being killed by a terrorist than ever getting married? That was bogus, and so is this. Steve, you're married to a career woman. Thoughts?
My boyfriend and I have been together for 15 years. Lately we've been fighting a lot about sex. I thought things were great because he never complained. He's been getting on me about trying new things, such as oral sex. I've tried it but don't like it. He's threatened to leave and that hurts, because I stood by him when he drank and got high seven days a week. He is depressed and doesn't want to go without oral sex for the rest of his life. He's only had it once and that was before he met me. What do you suggest?
: As much as I don't want to tell you to do something you hate, maybe you should give oral sex the old college try once more. Just relax and take it slow. And the bonus is that then he has to give it to you!
: I always thought the oral-sex issue was settled by the second date. Here's my suggestion: Draw a line down a sheet of paper. On one side, have him make a list of everything he likes about you, all the things you've done for him, etc. On the other side, write "oral sex." Then ask him to choose one or the other.
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